Biblical Sex Ed: What Your Youth Group Never Told You

Most of us were told what not to do with sex.
Very few of us were ever told what sex is actually for.  
In this message, we'll revisit a question my friend David asked in youth group: "What is sex?" It sounds simple, but the answer is anything but.

Drawing from Genesis 1-2, 1 Timothy, and Colossians, we'll explore four overlooked truths: sex is essential, sex is God's idea, sex is an icon, and sex is a signpost. Along the way, you'll have a chance to wrestle with why sex matters so much, why it wounds us so deeply, and what it's designed to point us toward.

This isn't about new rules. It's about a vision of sexuality that's both ancient and desperately needed today—one that refuses puritanical shame and consumeristic self-indulgence in equal measure.

If you've ever felt torn between following Jesus and your sexuality—this message is for you.

Download our group discussion guide here.

Chapters

• 0:00 “You could feel the awkwardness in the room…”
• 1:22 Dave’s question: “What is sex?”
• 3:14 Pandora’s Box in youth group
• 4:20 “This conversation is over. STOP HAVING SEX.”
• 4:41 The fallout: shame, secrets, and “It doesn’t work.”
• 6:02 Why we’re doing this series (and why it’s hard)
• 7:58 “As your pastor, I’ve seen too much.”
• 11:24 Three guardrails for a safe conversation
• 17:23 Welcome to class: Biblical Sex Ed
• 17:36 #1: Sex is essential
• 20:42 “The human cake model” (sex touches everything)
• 23:23 #2: Sex is God’s idea
• 27:50 #3: Sex is an icon
• 35:38 #4: Sex is a signpost
• 41:37 What is sex?